Skittles has been with us four months now. I’m attempting to
integrate the entire household, which means that Skittles, Pebbles, Mama
Dru, Jake and Boo are all being put to the test. Can they possibly get
along with each other?
Skittles is absolutely the most easygoing of them all when it comes
to getting along with other cats. She will play with Boo, play by
herself, curl up with Mama or Pebbles and generally get along with any
of them. Mama is the exact opposite and as a result, often has to be
locked up in the back bedroom because of aggressive behavior toward Boo
or Jake.
Skittles still does not trust me and hisses when I move too fast or
get too close or startle her. However, we have made some definite
progress. Every once in a while, I’ll wake up in the morning and realize
that Mama Dru, Pebbles
and Skittles are all on the bed with
me. Skittles will usually be at the foot of the bed and not touching me
at all, but she’s in close proximity and it’s a huge step forward. Of
course, she immediately jumps down the second she realizes that I’ve
awakened.
I still have not had the opportunity to pet her. I miss it and often
wish that I had kept her locked up for longer. It’s hard to know the
best choice in these situations. Would she have been better off if I’d
followed the recommendation and simply left her released after trapping and
spaying her? I absolutely don’t think so, but some people might
consider that I’ve been cruel to keep her inside when she spent her
entire first year living outside and most of that year, on her own.
Would we be further along if I’d kept her locked up in the back bedroom
all of this time? Forcing her to interact with me twice a day until all
those breakthroughs I’m still waiting for happened? Maybe. But she was
alone most of the day and in a small bedroom besides. It seemed
endlessly cruel.
I cannot help but second guess all of my decisions because that’s the
kind of person I am. In the end, I console myself with the knowledge
that, right or wrong, Skittles’ life has definitely been changed for the
better - she’s safer at the very least - due in part to the choices
that I have made.